Sneak Peek: New Advice Column
BC here. I’m writing this for two reasons: ONE- we’ve got a new advice column from Contributor Shae Rue that I wanted you to have a look at, and TWO- We want your questions!
Here’s the press release, errrr, Craigslist ad, followed by a preview of Shae’s infinite wisdom.
Attention people with any random problems: renown tarot card reader and hypnotist Shae Rue has started a tongue-and-cheek advice column on the NEW anthropological watchdog blog ‘The Heated Forest.’ To be clear – the advice is REAL and Shae Rue will take your problem seriously. At the same time it may be speckled with irreverence and a humorist’s approach to our shared flawed humanity. If you’re wondering what that looks like, take a look at her blog: A Short Wave
WHAT WE ARE LOOKING FOR: Questions of all sorts – on love & romance, money, sex, career, spiritual conditions, annoying people, unexplainable happenings, philosophical quandaries,and more.
She CAN interpret Tarot card readings, give astrological advice, and has a strong background in mythology to get a little insight from the gods.
Send your questions to Shae Rue by EMAILING US and we will let you know if your question is going to be featured on the ‘The Heated Forest.’ Please offer a (false) sign-off name and enough context for the problem so that she can be fully informed of the situation.
Don’t be shy, Shae Rue has your remedy!!
And now, Shae’s first Advice column…
Dear Shae Rue,
Will the battle of the sexes EVER end? How can we stop the cycle?
Dear Wounded Maiden,
My condolences for your recent injury on the battlefield, may godspeed your swift recovery.
While I don’t fault your use of the term, let us not think of love as a battlefield of slinging arrows and betrayals. Let this divisive gender war finally grind to a halt. What good has come of this? We live in an interdependent society that finds men and women with different strengths – whether we refer to the whole of the gender, or on the more individual level. Stereotyping is so 1952.
And let us not forget – the ‘battles’ that occur are not just between men and women but also between men and between women amongst themselves. Looking on the outside, you might say that everyone is kind of fighting all the time for no reason. Unity and compassion should be the true aim aim; Not differentiating between personal preferences, posturing and affectations (the stuff of gender labels).
So who will put the final stake in the heart of this gender role business? What precedent do we have for overcoming this perceived divisiveness?
Consider the plight of Tiresias – a pagan prophet of the god Apollo. After messing with some snakes one day Hera punished him by turning him into a woman. Being female is a punishment in most of ancient mythology, if you haven’t noticed. But Tiresias made lemons with lemonade and ended up getting married to another prophet and having some babies. Later he was transformed back into a man and became a source of authority on the differences between the sexes. The most famous instance was when Zeus and Hera asked him to settle the argument of who has more pleasure during sex, man or woman? Tiresias replied, “Of ten parts a man enjoys one only.” That is to say: Women get the long end of the stick. This shocked Hera and he was struck blind for his impiety.
Blindness and impiety aside – Tiresias turned common knowledge on its’ head by virtue of his own experience in the matter. What if we actually treated people like experts of their own experience, rather than expecting them to conform to our stereotypes?
So the short answer is this: The battle of the sexes will only come to end when women actually start caring about what it’s like to be a man in our society, and when men do the same to genuinely understand the female experience. Until we are actually interested in the experience of ‘the other’ we will continue to fail at finding common ground, and remain blind in our own stubbornness. If only we could all see it from both sides like dear Tiresias.